Christmas is often painted as the ‘most wonderful time of the year,’ but for many, it can bring stress, pressure, and emotional strain. The festive season can stir up feelings of loneliness, financial stress, and even anxiety over family dynamics.
In fact, a survey conducted by the Australian Psychological Society found that over 40% of Australians feel stressed during Christmas, with financial concerns (60%) and family issues (45%) being the major stressors.
If you’re not feeling as merry as you think you “should,” you’re not alone
Here’s how to manage the holiday season without getting overwhelmed and nurture your emotional wellbeing.
- Take the Pressure Off
In a world of ‘Insta-perfect’ moments, it’s easy to believe that Christmas should fix everything – the picture-perfect family, the flawless lunch spread, and a day where all the year’s challenges magically disappear. We often buy into the idea that Christmas will somehow wave a wand and smooth over long-standing conflicts, heal strained relationships, or bring the happiness we’ve been searching for.
But real life isn’t like a Christmas movie, and expecting one day to erase the struggles of the year can set you up for disappointment and stress.
It’s okay if your family isn’t picture-perfect, if old tensions resurface, or if things don’t look like they do in the glossy posts you see on social media. Behind every ‘perfect’ holiday photo, there are real emotions, and real lives – just like yours. - Set realistic expectations
You don’t have to host the ultimate Christmas or make everyone magically get along. Real life is messy, and that’s okay. Instead of chasing an unrealistic ideal, focus on creating meaningful moments – whether it’s enjoying a simple meal together, making time for self-care, or cherishing the relationships that lift you up. - Say no when you need to
It’s okay to step away from difficult dynamics or say no to situations that drain your energy. Protecting your wellbeing might mean choosing not to engage in every gathering or conversation, and that’s perfectly valid. After all, one day won’t resolve a year of struggle – and it doesn’t have to.
You don’t have to say yes to every gathering, conversation, or request. Protecting your emotional wellbeing might mean spending less time in environments that feel overwhelming or limiting your exposure to situations that drain you. It’s not selfish. It’s self-preservation. - Be Kind to Your Emotions
Christmas isn’t joyful for everyone, and that’s okay. The holiday season can stir up all kinds of feelings – especially for those who are grieving, going through tough times, or feeling alone.
Grief and loss. The absence of a loved one can feel especially heavy at Christmas. The traditions, the gatherings, the memories -they can all bring up deep feelings of sadness and longing. It’s okay to feel that. Don’t push it away.
Loneliness. While the world seems to be celebrating togetherness, many people feel more isolated than ever during the holidays. If you’re feeling lonely, know that you’re not alone in that feeling. Loneliness is much more common than it seems, especially at Christmas. - Check In on Your Mental Health
In the whirlwind of Christmas preparations, it’s easy to get swept up in the hustle and forget to check in on yourself.
Set boundaries. Christmas often comes with a lot of expectations – from family, friends, and even ourselves. If you find yourself feeling stretched thin or emotionally drained, it’s okay to set boundaries. - Take time for self-care
Christmas doesn’t have to be a constant flurry of activity. It’s okay to step back and take moments just for you.
Maybe it’s a quiet walk to clear your mind, practicing mindfulness to ground yourself, or simply carving out time to rest.
Navigating Family Tensions
Family get-togethers can be rough, let’s not sugarcoat it. If you’re already feeling that pit in your stomach about seeing certain people or having those awkward convos, don’t feel like you have to just “tough it out.”
Have a game plan: If things start going sideways, it’s totally okay to step out, even if it’s just to take a breather. Go for a walk, grab a drink, or find a quiet spot to reset. You’re not running away from the situation – you’re protecting your peace.
Set some clear boundaries: If you know there are topics that always stir the pot, don’t be afraid to say, “Let’s leave that for another time.” You don’t need to dive into heavy stuff like politics or old family dramas when you’re just trying to enjoy the day.
Christmas doesn’t need to be perfect, and it’s okay to set the boundaries you need to keep things smooth.
You Don’t Have to Do It Solo
If you’re struggling, don’t think you’ve got to carry that weight alone. Whether it’s chatting with a mate over a wine or coffee or reaching out to a professional, getting support is a sign of strength, not weakness.
The holidays can feel like a lot sometimes. Don’t let the pressure to keep everything together stop you from looking after yourself. It’s okay to step back, check in on your mental health, and lean on others when you need it. Find those little pockets of calm and joy, and remember: you don’t have to do it all by yourself.
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